Friday, February 18, 2011

wish me luck,

i mean....pray for me.

today. after work. i'm off to nebraska.
home.
with roman, but not mr leif.

he has to work on saturday, because like me, he too is feeling way too swamped these days.

the romes and i are going to visit my momma. and MY SISTER will be there too. and her family. YAY??!!!!!

but back to the prayers.
its a 4.5 hour drive.
but,
i'll be doing it alone.
in the dark.

meaning, nursing on the side of the road.
pulling over when the paci falls out.
pulling over to change the dipe.
in the dark.
with boogy men all around.
jk.

but really, i'm nervous.

i don't want our drive to take 7 hours.
and i don't want my car to break down.
not that it ever has.
but now wouldn't be a great time for it it happen.

but i promise.
when i return..................
pictures, pictures pictures!!!
fun fun FUN will reappear on this blog.

no more debbi downer lindsey.
life is good.
God is good.
family is good.
and well, this drive might be good...........maybe. i mean, i CAN stop and get a route 44 sonic on the way, ey????

ps. can i pump and drive at the same time? no, you say?
ok. better not.........

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

seriously, mrs leif?

working with kids, can be quite........
fun.

"well, gosh mrs leif, how'd your baby get out of you?"
um, well, do you really wanna know? jk. besides your male kindergarten teacher just gave me an 'oh this is awkward look', and.......moving on.

"oh mrs. leif, your tummy isn't round any more! what happened?"
thanks.....but ahem, you don't wanna see underneath my shirt!!! hello one-piece swimsuit.

mrs leif, they actually had walmart back when you were a kid, wow!!?"
seriously girls, i'm not that old. for real. like totally there was a jc penny back then too. boo yah.

"omg. when i say i like justin bieber, it's not that i want to marry him. i'm just being a fan. you know, like hang posters up in my room and buy his book, and listen to his music. now, if i said i like like like him, or like love him, then i really love him. but just one like doesn't mean love."
whoa. breathe child. breathe.

"and besides i saw him with his girlfriend in a magazine, and his arm was like this (she puts her arm around me) so yeah, he has a girlfriend. so of course i don't like like like him or like love him"
well duh. you totally aren't in love with him.

the storm before the calm?

that's how i feel right now.
i knew this would happen.
i knew i would end up in this 'place'
my life feels like a storm right now.
and i get myself in these situations all the time........i WORK HARD at trying to slow my life down. it literally becomes WORK.

no, i don't think it was a wrong time to launch my new stella and dot business. in fact, i think the time was perfect. i need to get it off and going so that when summer comes and my only responsibilty is little romes, i will be in full force with stella and dot. i want to be comfortable with it by summer time. i want to have it be a normal part of my life by then, so i can fully enjoy my summer with romes, and won't need to be learning the ropes to this new thing. i'll already have it under my belt.

but problem?
i'm still working.
and still going to school every wednesday night.
and still trying to pump and nurse.
and still trying to be a wife.
and still trying to figure out this whole mom gig.
and still trying to travel and visit family.

so, i'm looking at this as my storm before the calm.

most days i'm pumped with adrenaline, to dominate the day.
but a few times i feel defeated before i even get out of bed.

roman looks up and begins giggling after our 5:30am nursing time. and i shiver at the thought of setting him down so i can get ready to go to work. but i suck it up. and i do it. moms are strong. wow, we are.
then, i begin thinking..........is this really my storm before the calm? or is this my life. is this just how life is? barely stop to catch your breath before you go again?
regardless if i'm working or not.
regardless if i have one child or 5.
will life always be so challenging?

last week, mr leif and i started laughing in the kitchen as i said, "wow, the responsibilities in life never stop, huh! we just won't ever get a break or a timeout from here on out!"
life can be such a heavy burden on our shoulders.
IF we let it.

why do we let it?
or maybe its just me. why do i let it?
i close my heart off. i don't go to HIM for help. i don't accept his grace in the areas of my life that i need it so bad.

the beautiful thing about our FATHER, is that he wants to carry our burdens for us.
psalm 55.22 - Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you.

i typically don't have the tendency to be a 'downer'
i typically am quite the happy, smiley, goofy, full of energy girl.......
but it seems as if, in this season, i've let things get the best of me.
busy-ness and worry.

i don't know what it is about music. but it gets to me. every time.
i can be in the biggest funk and then a good song comes on and i completely do a 180.
that's what happened the other morning.
this song came on.
and, when i found it on youtube, i fell in love with this version.
each verse i read seemed to JUMP OUT and GRAB my heart.
saying, "hello, lindsey? you'll be fine. I AM here for you, quit freaking out. quit trying to handle life on your own. turn it over to ME"
a breath of fresh air.


so.
i didn't want this post to come off as a complaint.
but i wanted to share. because i know so many of us can feel so burdened by the busy-ness of life. we let whatever season we are in overwhelm us to the max. leaving us tired, worried, and confused.

i want you to know there is SO much rest in HIM.
his grace is SO sufficient.
and songs like those can just re-vamp me.
making me feel confident because HE is with me EVERY step of the way.
at work.
at home.
in the middle of the night.
when i'm tired. annoyed. overwhelmed. and ready to throw the towel in :)
to stop, and slow down, and be still in the lord, can be difficult.
we get ourselves so consumed with over-committing.
i over-committ because i want to please others. i want to make sure i am meeting the needs of those around me. but really, its so unhealthy. my family suffers. my job suffers. my relationships suffer.
however. i'm trying to train myself to slow down.
sounds weird, i know.
but.........the other morning. a rare thing happened.
as i was looking up from feeding romes, i saw the sunrise.
and it was beautiful.
i don't remember the last sunrise i've seen...living in the city doesn't quite promote it.
but it was there, peeking around our neighbor's house. and bright pink.
it made me stop. think. and reflect on my day. HIS beauty is everywhere, reminding me anytime, anywhere that his grace is sufficient. one day at a time. i just have to look. i can't put my blinders on.
it's all around us.
we just have to stop and see it.

so.
here's to being refreshed and ready.
here's to smiling. laughing. and being lighthearted in the midst of crazy.
here's to the storm. praying it brings calm :)

Saturday, February 12, 2011

from our romeo.

our lil' romeo wishes you a happy love day.
:)


oh boy, miss molly has done it again.


again?
yes, yes, yes.........
she did this one too.
i forgot to post it!


what are me and mr leif gonna do to celebrate our LOVE?!?!?!?
not sure yet.
but i've got ideas in the makin'
romes gets his 4 MONTHS shots on V-day.
yep, folks, 4 months!!!!
so, the mr and i may need to postpone our celebration. we shall see......



Wednesday, February 9, 2011

makes you stop and think...

today, on my way to work, there were three accidents on the interstate.

as i was driving by one of them, slowy, as traffic was way backed up, i witnessed a victim getting loaded onto a stretcher and then placed in the ambulance.

wow.

that totally rocks your world. in a scary way.
have you ever been on a stretcher?
in an ambulance?

i have.
almost 4 years ago.
i was in an accident. kind of a weird accident. i passed out (i had the flu) while driving. weird. i know.
but regardless, i was in SOOOO much pain and asked to be strapped onto the stretcher with one of my knees bent up, half fetal position......
while in the ambulance my pain was so severe i couldn't talk or try to answer any of their questions.
i thought, was i going to die?
the emergency room was crazy..........

makes you really stop and think.

but then i recovered and moved on with my life.

when i was finally released to drive (thanks sam for coming down to KC to drive me to the bank to sign the papers when we bought our house....crazy times!!!) i was a bit nervous. back on the raod? what if i pass out again?

it kept me on my toes for a while, in terms of evaluating life. my purpose. my goals. situations like those really make you stop and think.

but i quickly jumped back into the swing of things after a month off of work to recover. and after about 4 months i could work out and/or be active again. in no time, i rarely thought of my accident. and thus, rarely put my life into check, as seriously as i had that february, 4 years ago.

but today?
seeing that stretcher load up into the ambulance brought me back there.

as i passed the ambulance, i turned up k-love even louder.
you can probably hear the music blaring in the car next to me (and both of our windows are up)
you probably know what song i'm listening to by watching me sing at the top of my lungs.

but today, there was a song with the lyrics:
As the hands and feet of Jesus, I’m called to serve the least of these.

then...i began thinking, how am i "serving the least of these?"

HOW am i acting as the HANDS and FEET of JESUS?

so.
that's where i am right now.
focusing, praying, thinking, about how GOD is going to use me.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

and one more thing...

....prayers for my momma today...
she's undergoing surgery, as i type.
she's having her thyroid removed.
may our Lord be guiding the doctors hands :)

update> surgery went great!

don't mind me...

........it's my day off.

and i'm busy cleaning this

Monday, February 7, 2011

so, what's up with romes?

well hi guys! so glad you asked....
mom's just uploaded a bunch of pictures from her cell phone, for your viewing pleasure, hehe :)

i like my slippers, yep i do. sometimes i wear them to take my naps in......and when mom comes to get me, she finds that one or both have fallen off during my nap, so she laughs and kisses my piggies!!

i still get swaddled for ever nap or sleeptime. i liked being wrapped up tight. but.......if i'm not wrapped tight enough, then......

walaaaa........i'm bustin' out yo! when i break out of my blanky, mom sings, "i want to break free'eee......i want to break free....." to me. then i giggle.

a couple nights ago i wiggled all the way over to my puppy.
mom saw me in action because her and dad were peeking on me for about 10 minutes watching me giggle at the animals in my bed!

oh. this hat? mom always puts it on me, and then takes a bajillion pictures.
i don't mind it.....i like me some fluffies :)

ahhhhh, yes. the hat. again. while i'm getting my diaper changed? come on mom!

yep, it's no lie. i'm a giggle monster. especially when i make eye contact with mom.......or whenever she makes her silly noises. i giggle at dad too, he likes to talk to me in a high pitched voice. hehehe

diaper head.

bath time? gettin' fresh for the babes, what's not to love?

ok.
happy monday.
i'm hoping this week flies by, i miss my mom when she's at work. is it summer break yet?

Saturday, February 5, 2011

a postpartum series: part 2

i'm not sure where i left off last time, and for some reason i don't feel like going back and reading part 1 to see......i guess i'm being lazy :)
but the truth is, romes just fell asleep for a napperoo, and i only have so much time before he needs me, you know....for a snack :)

so let's see....
i've been wanting to share about coming home from the hospital.
and, although my last post about postpartum was more about the emotional experience, this one is going to touch on some of the physical things. actually just 3 things. but i think they are important. so there. :)

i've obviously only experienced giving birth once. thus i have only went through it one way....
i have spoken with lots of friends who have had different experiences. but. either way, i want to share mine. because if i can even help just one other girl out there be a little more prepared because she read this and ended up experiencing the same thing, that cool. tadaaa. awesome.

ok, let's get started.
i wasn't really into reading books during my pregnancy. i mean, i liked the idea of sitting cozied up on the couch with book after book, expanding the my knowledge of everything baby. but it didn't happen. actually, mr leif did more prepping then i did. he received weekly email updates from 'what to expect'....and actually learned a lot through them!
however, i did try to stay pretty up to date with one of those week by week preggo books. i would take it to the pool with me (partly so that when people saw me in a suit, there was a little justification for my pouch / aka / not quite sure if it looked like a baby bump yet - see, they could see my preggo book and think "oh, ok, she's preggo) idk. just another one of those body image issues i went through (i guess i shouldn't say went, because it's not quite in the past yet) while being pregnant.

talk about interesting. it's so fun to learn how your little babe is growing each week, and it's great to find out that your symptoms are normal, or that heartburn is expected, and that i should be eating healthier..... yes. great book.

but.
what i found that really isn't out in the 'if your pregnant, read this' world....are books preparing you for the physical and emotional parts of labor and recovery.
i mean, there are those chapters in the ends of those weekly books that take you through the labor and delivery, and recovery.
but they just aren't really that great.
and to be honest? by the time you hit week 30 (remember non-moms, preggo is 40 weeks) of being pregnant, not much changes with the baby, so most of the time you, or at least i, stopped reading the book.

i'm truly thankful that my older sissy asked me to be in her delivery room when she had charlotte. it opened my eyes and my heart to SORT of prepare myself for what to expect. and i'm assuming, all of you non-momma's reading this, that you won't all get to have the experience of witnessing a birth, so that's why i want to share with you!

one: ouchie.
wow. i should tell you, i just wrote a big paragraph about things that are entirely too graphic, and then deleted it all. i decided that it was way too much for this blog. eeeek! but what IS for this blog is that i want you to understand when you come home from the hospital, you will have to take care of yourself. chances are you had some sort 'ouchie' down there and it will need lots of care. why do i say that? because so many friends have shared with me that they didn't know about that part. that no one told them about the awesome netted granny panties they have to wear along with the other stuff........ lets leave it at that. but warning: coming home isn't easy on your body (down there).

two: maternity clothes - don't baggem' up too soon.
when you come home from the hospital, you want comfy clothes. but you won't be able to hop right back into those cute little jeans you wore before you were preggo. nope. truth is? for those first few weeks, you are still deflating. and obviously it will take months to get back into those jeans. so prepare yourself.
a week or so before i delivered, my sweet friend colette and i went to the mall. partly ,to walk around in hopes to get babyleif out sooner, but also to buy something cute and comfy and able to wear if breastfeeding, for the hospital.
yes, buy something cute for the hospital, DO IT!
you just had a baby, you are sick of your maternity clothes, but you WONT fit into those 'real' clothes yet.......so buy something cute and loungy that is new and crisp, to put on after that first shower at the hospital. i still grab my cute zip up from american eagle when i run out the door......it easily masks my horrible saggyness while wearing a nursing bra........and looks cute at the same time. haha. hehe.

three: you're going to be starving.
especially if you're breastfeeding.
buy some snacks for those middle of the night feedings.
i went through animal crackers like they were goin' outta style.
remember this picture? yep. i lived off of animal crackers.


ok. i feel like this post is getting REALLY boring.
gag, i almost want to just delete it.
so i better stop here. before i just keep rambling.
hopefully some of those things help you (you, and you, and you who are pregnant or you, who aren't quite preggo yet, but will be someday, hehe)

and i still have two posts knitting themselves together in my mind.
one is about stella and dot.
coming soon.
maybe tonight?
(and in case you are wondering what stella and dot is, scroll down through the bottom of this post i JUST saw on a blog i follow!!
way cool.
see you soon.
yum
cheese pizza for dinner.
thank you papa johns, you never fail to impress me :)

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

the past. the present. the future.

the PAST, like just the last couple weeks......
oh man, holy snow day after snow day.
did you know i've only had ONE week since xmas break that i've actually worked a full four days (because i'm only working 4 days a week now. praise the LORD)
yep, we've had that many snow days.
also, did you know that colette had her babies? yep. she did. two boys.
and they're cute. SO cute.
and she's really good at being a mom. relaxed. a natural.
let's seeeee....
oh yeah.

i got sick.me. sick. and realizing i hadn't showered or changed in over 2 days. whoops.
yeah,
i learned pretty quickly that staying home from work, trying to get healthy, isn't like it used to be.
pre-roman:
a good sleepin' in, lazy morning, filled with a hot shower, and maybe a trip to panera for a yummy breakfast or soup lunch, accompanied by a lazy afternoon nap, a couple law and order reruns, and then snuggles under the blankets until mr leif comes home to rescue me from the sickness with hugs and dinner and well, anything else i want.
sick w/ roman:yikes! roman is hungry at 5:00am. what? roman, not today. even though you always get up around 5, when i'm sick you must skip this feeding. no? ok. fine. so i nurse him and while we walk back to my bedroom, burp him on the way. then it's back to bed. swaddle him up like a bambino. and go back to sleep, together. then he's hungry again in a few hours. back up to nurse. OH man. head pounding. body aching. quick nurse. (oh crap. he wants to play???) what in the world, he's HAPPY? and must think i look like a freak (i did, if you caught the picture above) because he wants to laugh all day long. but ya know what? even when i'm sick, he can make me smile. and laugh. and even bounce around doing really embarrassing things just to get him to giggle. alrighty, i'm hungry. and it's lunch time.
oh yes, chili in the fridge.
warm up the chili, and what do ya know? spill it all over my legs.
and i musta put it in the microwave a tad too long, i burnt my legs.
ouch.
i said OH FRICK! which is like a cuss word.
and then i felt bad. roman was staring at me.
strip down naked to get the hot hot chili off.
it landed on my shirt, pants, AND socks.
(ps - still have a big red burn mark on my thigh)
moving on.......
the afternoon was filled with a giant nap.
roman held my hand while we were in bed.
oh, everything's better now.

so yes......... romes stayed healthy throughout the week, and weekend.
but just yesterday he turned piggy.
snuffy snuffy nose.
but guess WHAT.
he LOVES getting his nose suctioned. yeah, who woulda though!?!
it makes him giggle.
so i suction his nose a lot.
we have fun.
and just this morning i squeezed the suctiony thing after i sucked a boog out, and it went flying....and stuck to our wall. HAHAHAHAHAH.
i'm leaving it there until mr leif gets home.
it's going to be the first thing i show him.
can't wait.
(ok this is funny...........i can hear roman giggling in his crib. i have 4 stuffed animals hanging over the edge and he thinks they are so funny. he's supposed to be sleeping, but instead has been literally squeeling in laughter for the past 10 minutes!!!!!!!!!!!)


alrighty.
the PRESENT. like, today.
i'm soaking up my 5th day in a row home with rome.
yep.
sat, sun, (monday my day off) tues snow day, and today snow day.
the LORD HAS BEEN GOOD TO ME.
really, it could snow up until May if i continued to get snow days.
although,
then we'd have to go on longer.... so, nevermind.
ok, seriously? roman is SO much fun.
you guys.........he is so happy!
doesn't have a fussy time. nope. from morning until night, he's such a little squealer!!!
makes life as a momma pretty fun :)
makes these snow days THAT much better :)
makes this season of life SO sweet.
people always say, oh THIS is my favorite stage, and then the next stage is their favorite and then the next and the next........
but so far, THIS is the best stage.
romes is like my little doll.
i get him dressed.
he LOVES to play with little toys, and the mirror, and drooling.
he LOVES when i am really weird
he LOVES when i sing
he LOVES when i make awkward noises
he LOVES when i bounce around like a crazy person
he LOVES almost anything we do.
he loves life. and i'm in love with him :)

the FUTURE. 
well, not sure.
just trying to take it one day at a time :)